When most people meet each other for the first time, they tend to exhibit a little bit more formal attitude than they usually are towards people they know. First few weeks usually go by without having any house or personal related problems. Roommates act at their best behavior since they don’t know each other well.
As time passes, people tend to test their boundaries with roommates. For instance, you never skipped doing your dishes soon after your meals, but today you just don’t feel in the mood for extra work on a full stomach, or you are juuuust not going to put on your headphones, and keep the good song playing on your speakers while your roommate is taking a nap afternoon after work or school. Occasions like this could create tension between new roommates.
We strongly advice a few tips in order to prevent possible disagreements and arguments;
- First rule of getting along is respect.
Don’t judge a book by it’s cover. We all come from different backgrounds, adopting both similar or different values. If you have matching lifestyles, enjoy sharing more things together. If you have different ways of living, try to understand and learn from your differences.
- Set fair house rules and share chores.
Cleaning is major part of living together. Grant each other responsibilities for different rooms of your apartment. For example, you clean the bathroom and your roommate takes care of the kitchen. Leaving dishes no more than 1 or 2 days in the sink or dishwasher is also another working example of setting rules around the house. This way you don’t have to test boundaries, having to force yourselves tolerate each other and let things build up.
- If something bothers you about your roommate TALK NOW!
Don’t wait until things build up to the boiling point. As part of our human nature, we try to avoid confrontation as much as we can, so we stay silent when things bother us. If you let things pile, one little incident can easily turn into World War III in a split second. At times like this, roommates tend to aimlessly bring up moments that aggravated them in the past left and right that have absolutely nothing to do with the current issue. Open up ahead of time. Position the head ache that bothers you in a positive, understanding manner.
No matter how laid back your roommate can get, always ask or immediately replace what you have borrowed from the fridge or the closet. This is a simple universal rule. If you delay making it up, no matter how much your warm roommate tells you “What is mine is yours!”, he or she will feel abused on a subconscious level. Do not let this happen and expect the same from your roommate. As we have mentioned before, speak up if your roommate is taking more than they are supposed to.
Share common activities that you both enjoy together. Grab a couple of drinks together on a Friday or Saturday night, watch a football game on a Sunday and introduce your friends to each other. That way, you won’t just feel like every other roommates living in the same apartment, but construct good friendship maybe lasting forever.
- We are roommate matching experts at Zuma Housing
At Zuma Housing, we help you find the best roommate that will make your living experience fun and fulfilling. If you have issues with your roommates, we try to mediate any kind of disputes for you and find the best solution that fits your needs. Zuma Housing has been long bridging between great friendships. We have seen many regular friends grow into best friends in Zuma.
Don’t forget, we are your very first friends at Zuma Housing…